It is easy to be a friend in happy times; the world loves a good time. But get involved in some drama or financial loss and see where your best friend is, probably among the missing. Now she will have her personal reasons for not being there, but unfortunately it is not about her but your issues. Now is that a true loyal friend, well I guess not!
A true friend is someone who can understand your past, believe in your future and most of all, accept who you are today. A real friend can keep a secret and be there when you need her.
I put together a test to determine if your friend is really your friend. Ask yourself does she make you feel better or worse when she is needed? Anyone can be there during the good times, is she there during the difficult times? Will she help you out without making you feel guilty? Have you gone through hard times with her and survived? Does she allow you to be you without any limitations? I hope you can say yes to all of my questions, if not, you need to reevaluate the relationship. And before more moving on, there is no such thing as a bad friend - a bad friend is no friend, get it?
How do you deal with friends that are not there for you? Well first of all the friendship is what I call toxic (sick and flawed). I suggest if your friend(s) are toxic then move away from them and start again. I have done this, it can be done. Replace them with people that are caring and supportive and that will be there for you. How do you do it? Just explore new past times, hobbies and interests. And as always you must live well to be well
I think. I read. I care. I inform. I coach.
Sometimes friends can hurt you and not care--I wonder why that is so?
Get back to me--what do you think?
Sometimes friends can hurt you and not care--I wonder why that is so?
Get back to me--what do you think?
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