Perhaps you have reached that moment when you wonder if a friendship is worth saving. Maybe you are not there yet, but the question has come to your mind more than once. It is never an easy decision whether to end a friendship or not. If you have been friends for a long time it is even harder.
What are signs that a friendship should end?
If your friend is an abuser or is in any form putting you or your family in danger, it is time to end the friendship. Most addictions are signs the friendship should end. The liar and the two faced friend are not friends. Someone who steals from you or your family is not a friend.
What are some signs that friendship should probably end?
Your friend makes jokes, comments or remarks that make you feel bad. The friend complains consistently, perhaps about your significant other, your family or any other friends. If something good happens for you, the friend minimizes it or picks it apart. The friends that constantly have drama probably take more than they give.
What is important in a friendship?
A friend should never make you feel fearful. A friendship is about giving and taking, sometimes it is 80/20 sometimes it may be 30/70 but in the end it should balance. If not you should talk to friends that take more than they give. If you do not feel like you can have open communication with someone, that person is not your friend.
Is this the end of the friendship?
Many relationships come to an end. People change. You may not have had as much as common as you originally thought. Then sometimes you find that someone only had a friendship with you as an ulterior motive or they were not really your friend from the start.
Are there problems?
A friend should make you feel happy. If thoughts of the friend make you feel sick, bitter or unhappy then unless something major changes you will only continue to feel that way or it will grow worse. When you stop respecting a friend then you are not doing favors for either of you by staying friends. This becomes hard to see with long term friends because part of you may still recall previous times when you were close.
What can I do?
While you may want a friendship to continue because of the past, if you are not friends now, then it is best for both parties to end it now. How you end it can be as simple as stop contacting the friend or in a letter to explain why. You can choose it to be a temporary break or a permanent one. If it is permanent do not tell the ex-friend it is temporary. Remember to not be confrontational but factual. Then realize you may mourn or feel a gap so be sure remember the good times.
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